Glorious Ruin: Get a copy!
If I can recommend only one resource to you, it would be the book “Glorious Ruin: How Suffering Sets You Free” by Tullian Tchividjian. Tullian breaks down the common misconception that many of us have been raised with. Namely, he turns off the idea that suffering is always about us. He approaches suffering from a Biblical worldview and asks what the Bible says about suffering.
In the process of reading this book, through my own sufferings, I found that suffering is a much more complex subject. Explicitly, suffering can be an act of worship to God; that doesn’t mean I make sufferings for myself, but when suffering comes, if I choose to let God drive that suffering and do His will through it, then that becomes an act of worship.
I don’t want to spoil the whole book for you. It is a good and reasonably quick read, but it just might twist your brain just enough that you begin to see those golden nuggets along the path God has you on.
Here’s the link to Amazon, buy the book, the Kindle edition, etc.; just get a copy!